Saturday, April 26, 2008

Help me understand

Why is it when you try and help someone they won't except your help and take it more as an insult?

5 comments:

Judith and Lance said...

This is a tricky question, could be a pride thing. Oftentimes people do not want to accept help because they are prideful and don't want to admit that they need help. That was the first thing that came to my mind.

Judith and Lance said...

I also thought of something else related to this, the person might feel guilty or bad for letting someone help them. I think we as women are trained to try to do everything for ourselves and when help is offered and we accept we often feel guilty b/c we think about the person who is helping us and how it might've "put them out" or made their life harder, when in reality it probably blessed the other person to offer help. I know I am also blessed when I make a sacrifice to help someone and when someone does the same for me!!

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Megan said...

Or maybe it isn't a pride thing at all. Maybe they only let you know HALF of the problem and there is more. Sometimes certains things we tell a person can hurt worse because we don't know what that person is going through. LIKE A "TRIGGER." EXAMPLE. Someone who has gone through sexual abuse. That person may have told you they went through sexual abuse and you are trying to help them and you are always telling them that you LOVE THEM, but you have noticed they are pushing you away MORE now! Maybe that is because their abuser always told them they LOVED them AFTER they abused them and so now that word is a TRIGGER. we are are HELPING someone we NEVER really know all their issues. We have to be very careful with our words and advice because to us we may think it should help to others it may hurt them. Everyone is different.

Something I have just learned over the years. Keep trying and praying!! DON'T GIVE UP ON THAT PERSON!

Miss you Sharon!

Cara said...

Plain old stubborness and pride. It is really hard to admit you need help, especially if you are prideful. I am not sure who you are talking about but think of that person and why they might have acted they way they did. You just might find out there is more to their story.